I don’t want to get out of bed. Fixing breakfast for my kids is not done in kindness, but with harsh words and a frustrated spirit. And my patience level for whining is completely non-existent. In short, mom burnout is hitting hard.
Now I could try and analyze what brought this burnout on. It could be the crazy busy schedule during this last month. It could be my failure to get to the gym this week. It could be the fact that I haven’t been taking my vitamins, drinking enough water, getting enough sleep, etc. But if I’m being honest, I don’t think it’s any of those things this time. No, this time its more than just mom burnout, it’s spiritual burnout. And it needs to be dealt with immediately.
What is Spiritual Burnout?
This is completely my definition formed from my own experiences. But when I say spiritual burnout I mean I’m experiencing a lack of desire to be in the Word. I find little joy and comfort in prayer and have just an overall empty feeling in all things spiritual. It’s a feeling of distance between myself and God, even when I’m reading His Word and writing my prayers.
Fight the Burnout
Maybe you have felt this way and have strategies in place for when this happens. Or maybe you are there right now and desperately want something to change but don’t know where to start may I offer these strategies that I’m using today to reconnect with God.
- Change it up. Sometimes I hit a spiritual rut because I have fallen into a mindless routine and am just going through the motions. If this is all that is factoring in to my spiritual burnout, then a simple change in routine will put an end to it. It may mean changing the order in which I do things, like putting my prayer time before my Bible reading for example. Maybe it means I take a break from writing out my prayers and spend some time alone on my bathroom floor praying out loud. (That totally happened by the way.) Or maybe a simple deviation from my reading plan will do the trick.
- Take in What is Good. I can’t ignore the fact that usually when a spiritual burnout hits, it’s also around the time I’ve been binge watching some T.V. show. When I finally accept this, I know I need to go on a T.V. fast. This means either significantly cutting back on my T.V. time or cutting it out all together and use the extra time listening to good praise and worship music, Gospel-centered podcasts, or sermons.
- Pray. This is probably the hardest one to do because I feel so disconnected from God, but it is always the one tool that never fails to work. When I pray during a spiritually dry period, almost always includes a time of confession. More often than not, my burnout is a result of failing to put God first in my life and value Him highly enough. It’s a result of my neglecting to live a life of worship. This prayer time also usually includes a time of surrender. Another reason I hit spiritual burnout it because I have been pursuing my own will or trying to be good enough through my own strength and understanding and ignoring the command to trust God with my whole heart (Proverbs 3:5-6). Today was one of those days. I needed to give up my idols of self and surrender my heart and will to God’s.
Examine Your Heart
Spiritual burnout requires you to look at your heart. It requires you to ask yourself how you got here. It requires you humble yourself and confess that you have been relying on your own understanding and strength to get you through the day. And it requires you to say with John W. VanDeVenter:
All to Jesus I surrender, All to Him I freely give.
I will ever love and trust Him, in His presence daily live.
I surrender all. I surrender all. All to Thee my blessed Savior, I surrender all.I Surrender All, Verse 1 and Chorus: by John W. VanDeVenter