If you follow me on social media the you will have heard my announcement from a couple of weeks ago: I’m pregnant! I’m sure my family is all thinking (thankfully not saying) “It’s about time.”
It took me a long time to be okay with the idea of pregnancy and childbirth again. While my last labor was only 4 hours, it was intense, so much so that just thinking about it caused me to cringe and almost hyperventilate, even months afterword. And pregnancy, I’ve never enjoyed it. I’m sick in the first trimester, though usually just in the morning and by the 3rd trimester, I’m big, heavy, and uncomfortable and so ready to be done. Basically, the whole process of bringing a child into the world is not my idea of enjoyable.
But I’m determined to change that this time. I don’t want to look back on this third pregnancy and see only misery. I don’t want to dread it so much I wait another 3 years before being ready to have another. So I’ve put three strategies in place to achieve one goal: Maintain a positive attitude.
Stay active and eat healthy
This is something that I have been trying do over that past year (not very well I might add). Every since eating a healthier diet, I have felt better and I know that if I maintain that lifestyle, I will have good weight gain throughout my pregnancy and am hopeful that the weight will start falling off pretty quick after the baby is born. I also to make sure I am staying active and maintaining my muscles so that I am strong for delivery and again, hopefully will see only healthy weight gain.
This step hasn’t been implemented yet as I’m struggling to find things that don’t mess with my stomach. But once I get out of the 1st trimester, I’ll get back on track.
Be Patient with myself
This one is hard for me. With me being sick in the mornings, and sometimes in the evenings, I find myself having to just lay in bed til 10 or 11 in the morning. All while life is going on without me in the living room. My boys are old enough to help themselves to food in the kitchen but don’t know how to clean up after themselves. So, that means my kitchen and living room are in a perpetual state of disaster. I don’t mind that they help themselves to stuff right now, as that is rather helpful to me. What is frustrating to me is the mess that I literally cannot deal with because of the nausea and fatigue and this leaves me feeling on edge constantly (not to mention the extra hormones whirling around inside me).
I have to remind myself to lower my standards, change my expectations of myself and remember that no one expects me to be super mom and keep the house looking immaculate in this season.
Share “Bump” Pictures
You may be surprised to learn that this is not an easy thing for me either. I very much dislike the way I look when pregnant. Especially now after having lost weight, I have a very hard time flaunting the “bump”. I blame it on my body image issues. But this aversion to “the bump look” is what fuels my dislike of pregnancy and, therefore, is something that needs to be addressed.
My hope in sharing (probably not weekly, but close to it) pictures is that it will cause me see myself in a different light. I want to see my growing middle as something to be celebrated, not hidden. And maybe, just maybe, it will promote a more positive body image that I’m severely lacking.
Live in an “attitude of gratitude”
I am a complainer. It doesn’t matter what I’m doing, I will always find something to complain about. And with pregnancy, it’s easy to find stuff to complain worthy stuff. But what will happen when I choose to express thankfulness instead of complaining? What will my perspective on pregnancy become? I think it’s safe to say that while I wouldn’t necessarily be insanely giddy. I would definitely be more at peace and filled with the joy of the Lord.
The Ultimate Goal
Rejoice in the Lord. That is the summary of these 4 “mini goals”. To rejoice physically in the happy parts of pregnancy. To be at peace in the hard parts and glean strength from the Omnipotent Father. Will you pray for me as I embark on this journey?